Using sex to get what you want
I live in Los Angeles; I’ve heard about this happening numerous times. Whether it be for gifts, being sent on travels, getting ahead in a particular field, or simply wanting a person to dote on you, I don’t stand by the idea of sex being used as a power tool.
Unless you both know what’s up on why you’re sleeping together, playing with someone’s emotions to get what you want is a selfish act.
Your crushes don’t last long
Do you find yourself falling for someone quick and hard, only to move on to the next scrumptious man that walks into your line of sight?
By all means, date around. Finding out what kind of person works well with who you are is a rewarding process. But if you can’t keep interest for a guy longer than a couple of weeks, that may be something to look into.
I absolutely love this term just because of the image it invokes.
In case you haven’t heard the dating term “zombie” before, let me explain it.
It’s much like “ghosting,” where you just stop talking to the person without an explanation, but instead, you reappear months later out of nowhere, trying to re-enter that person’s life.
Essentially, you come back from the dead, where you should’ve stayed. Unless you have a stalker on your hands, ghosting is not ok in my books. Trying to come back into someone’s life after they’ve made an effort to move on is a bit cruel.
Acting like this seems indicative of manipulation of selfishness. Either way, it’s not cool.
The Idea of Non-sexual intimacy makes you cringe
Does the idea of cuddling, snuggling, or holding hands make you want to crawl out of your skin?
Not wanting non-sexual intimacy with someone could be a sign you’re just not that into them. If that’s the case, why are you spending your time with the other person? Think about that.
You wouldn’t help the other person if they were sick
If you’re with someone but only spend time with them to have fun, in or out of bed, then do you really care about them? Let’s say they got the flu. Would you head over to their place to take care of them?
Selfishness includes not being there for someone when they need you. This is a great question to ask yourself if you’re concerned you may act in a fuckgirl manner.
You would never introduce them to your friends
A partner is someone you journey through life with. You’re excited to bring them along and introduce them to the people that are most important to you.
On the other hand, if you are embarrassed by them or only hang out alone, then you may be using them for purposes other than wanting to be with them.